We've all had more than one experience where we got mad at our parents for grounding us for unreasonable reasons. How did they ground you? Well... That totally depends. Either way, it makes you furious. However, though you feel like your parents are grounding you for reasons that are unimportant think about their thoughts. They'll be disappointed and mad that you can't seem to follow the simplest rules. Show this to your parents right now and they'll stop grounding you.
Let's picture a familiar scene. You and your parents are fighting over something, and you blurt out one of those not-so-good comments, and as fast as you can blink, you're grounded from watching YouTube, TV, and your phone is taken away meaning that there's going to be a month of no texting, watching Tik-Tok videos, playing Nintendo games, and so much more!!!
YOU'RE probably thinking, 'I hate my parents. That was just one lame comment and I broke a minor rule. What's the point of grounding their precious little child and making them angry?'
Your PARENTS are thinking, 'I love them a lot, and that's why I set up rules for them, so they turn out to be good people. And if they can't follow the most minor rules, what kind of person are they going to turn out to be?!?!' (My mom gave me advice for this part, so it's probably what parents are thinking.)
On the other hand, research shows that grounding your child becomes a habit once the child breaks a rule, and if they break the same rule several times the punishment becomes worse and worse only making US children more devastated and full of rage.
I know that doing this seems to be the right way, but it's just not. This makes the children grow distant from their parents, and when this happens, parents will obviously regret their choices. Not only that if parents keep using this method, the children will become angry people.
So the best way according to Alan Kazdin, director of the Yale Parenting Center is to reward the child. This way the words will sink in, and soon the rewards won't be necessary because your child will be accustomed to following the rules. And remember, the prize doesn't have to with money.
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